We all live busy lives these days, and for those of us who are lucky enough to be mothers, those lives seem even busier once you’ve got a family. Free time becomes a precious commodity that you only get allocated in short bursts (if you’re lucky).
Although it’s often easy to put yourself last and put everyone else in the family’s needs first, it’s not always the right thing to do. While you need to make sure that everyone has what they need, there’s nothing wrong with making some time for yourself, so that you don’t go through the day feeling like you’re running on empty.
There are lots of ways that you can build some ‘me time’ into the day:
- Going to the gym or an exercise class on a fixed time each week
- Taking time for a walk when you’ve dropped the kids at school or nursery before you start the day at home or set off to work
- Having a girls’ night every month so that you can have time to socialise without the kids in tow
- Learning something new – a language, an art or craft skill – something that takes you away from your usual daily focus and allows you to develop a new skill
Last month it was Mother’s Day and although the day comes around every year, it’s always serves as a good reminder for kids to think about what their mums do for them every day of the year. Primary schools are great these days at getting the children to do something special for their mums; whether it’s a simple card, or something more involved like making a bunch of daffodils as an art project. It’s sweet to think of the teacher telling the kids all about the importance of Mother’s Day and how special we’ll feel when we receive their gifts.
It’s also a good reminder for all the mums out there to remember that motherhood is hard work and that it should be recognised as such every now and then. But we also need to make that link and factor in some down time for ourselves in our busy schedules.
Appreciating your mum doesn’t stop when you grow up, and when you become a mum, you suddenly begin to realise even more everything that your mum has done for you over the years. Now that you can experience the highs and lows of motherhood as a mum, you gain a greater understanding of how your mum must have felt at times when she was bringing you up. As well as it being a lovely day to spend with your kids, if your own mother has already passed away, Mother’s Day can also become one that is tinged with poignancy and sadness. It can make the day an even more emotional one, as you remember the times you shared together. However, that shouldn’t make you shy away from the memories; embrace them, even if it’s hard. Think about her and the things she loved doing and you’ll be able to remember lots of good times.
And if you’re lucky enough to still have your mum, make sure that some of that precious free time is devoted to her. Invite your mum to spend time with you and the kids on a regular basis, not just when you need a babysitter; or maybe go out together just the two of you. Having some time to yourself is important, but it’s also important to give back to the woman who has put so much of her love and time into you.
What do you do to make time for your mum?