I‘m not naturally a confident person, in fact I can be my own worse enemy sometimes. I talk myself out of so many things. I put barriers up and obstacles in my way, but a lot of people would probably say the opposite about me. I can walk into a room and talk to anyone, I’m never the one stood on my own. But, it has taken so much to actually walk into that room.
Internally my confidence & self esteem can be in chaos but I force myself to FEEL more confident because otherwise I’d be bloody miserable.
It’s hard to walk into that room full of people you don’t know, but what would be harder for me is standing there alone with no one to talk to. Standing in the corner would drag me further into myself which would be harder to break free from. As soon as you make the first move it brings you out of yourself and moves you forward, and you feel more confident talking to others & getting involved.
Basically what I’m saying is FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT
Feeling the fear is completely natural but it’s pushing past that feeling to achieve what you want, to get where you want. Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, just pretend that you do and, at some point you will.
The main thing for me is to stop doubting yourself, work hard & make it happen.
I never imagined I’d be running my own business but now I’ve got two! I’ve been running my cake business Handmade Queen since I took voluntary redundancy when pregnant with Archie over four years ago. My sister now manages this business for me since my blogging took off, she’s got such a natural talent for cakes too.
She wasn’t sure she was cut out for running a business as she’d never done it before but 12 months down the line and she’s made it a massive success, she’s a proper #MumBoss too.
After I’d been blogging a few months I knew I really wanted to make blogging my career but in order to do that I had to MAKE it my career. I had to believe I could do it, and project that to clients and brands in order for them to work with me.
That meant no longer being the ‘little blogger’, it meant taking a professional approach with my blog design, with approaching brands, with my finances and rates. You can catch up on my post ‘how to make more money though sponsored posts‘ which gives more info on how I make money.
Even if it’s the first time you are contacting a brand or company as a blogger they don’t have to know that. Don’t pretend you’re bigger than you are with a larger readership but give the professional approach. In my mind I had to tell myself if you want to be a professional blogger then act like a professional blogger
I wanted to start a YouTube channel. After about a year of umming & aahhing about it I filmed my first buggy review. It then took me another 6 months to actually edit & upload it because of my confidence. That’s a year and a half of building up the confidence to do something, how ridiculous is that? And once I’d done it? I couldn’t wait to start on a another, all that fuss for nothing!
I was terrified when filming, so so nervous but other people have said they can’t tell. I look confident in what I’m saying and how I’m acting, and now I feel confident filming product reviews. I’m more than happy to get in front of the camera to talk about any products.
Next I want to start properly vlogging and I’m doing the same to myself again. Undermining myself, finding excuses why I can’t. So again, I’m going to force myself to do it. If I want it I have to work for it and remind myself to fake it til I make it.
I’ve done so many things I never thought I would do. My life has gone in a completely different direction than I ever thought and that’s all down to having the confidence to make a decision and going for the goal.
It’s not about being fake or pretending to be something you’re not. It’s about pushing your boundaries and trying to have belief in yourself until it happens.
Even if you’re not fully confident don’t put yourself down, you can do this.
You can make yourself more confident, I know I’ve done it.
If you want to read up more on becoming a #MumBoss then I’ve got lot’s of posts about being self employed & working from home.