I’ve been loving writing more fashion & beauty posts for the blog but I’ve also been struggling with it too, struggling with my self confidence. I was really hoping that the more I had my photo taken the easier it would be but I still feel so awkward. I just don’t know what to do with myself, how to pose, where to look, what to do with my arms!

I just can’t seem to get any natural shots, the hubby will literally take about 50 photos and I might find two that I like.

I’m so critical of myself. I’m not pretty enough, I’m not thin enough. I will literally pull apart every photo listing the things I dislike about the photo, my legs, my arms, my pose.

But I was just the same when I started filming for my YouTube channel, This Mama Vlogs. The first video I filmed literally took me about 12 months to post as I just couldn’t build up the confidence. Would it be good enough? Would people watch it? What would they think? And it was only a buggy review not even one where I was putting myself out there.

I recently filmed a couple of makeup tutorials. I’ve wanted to do this for years, but again was just too critical of myself. All the other YouTubers were stunning. Perfect hair, perfect makeup. Gorgeous backdrops & stunning houses they were filming in. Again I just didn’t feel good enough, with my eye bags & wrinkles, filming in my little two bedroom terrace.

How ridiculous at 36 years old that I still feel like this?

But I’m getting much more relaxed in front of the camera when I’m filming for YouTube & I think it shows in my latest videos, I can’t believe how far I’ve come.

I’m not a pretty little 20 something and I ok with that. I’m a 36 year old mum of two and I want my beauty & fashion posts to reflect that. To be something that other mums my age can relate too. A lot of the beauty & style posts I’m seeing are amazing but they just aren’t relevant to me, as much as I do love watching them they just aren’t useful to me.

The clothing just wouldn’t suit me, I need my jeans to cover my mum tum & there’ll be no crop tops on my blog. I can’t spend hours on my makeup, I’ve got too much to do in a morning to be spending hours getting ready. I need to be ready in about 10 minutes. Plus all that Kardashian style concealer & ‘baking’ your makeup just makes my fine lines & pores even worse!

So hopefully I’ll soon feel the same about my style shots & fashion posts. I love writing them. I love styling the outfits, thinking about what to wear & trying new styles. It feels amazing to break out of my mum uniform of leggings and a t-shirt, to find other comfy, casual outfits that are actually stylish too.

I want to help other mums that are in my position now, not knowing what to wear or wondering what will suit them. I want to show other busy mums that we can look good with only 10 minutes to get ready. That we deserve to spend a bit of time pampering ourselves, or treating ourselves to that new outfit. To help other mums find their style to just like I’m finding mine.

So what do you think? Perhaps I am cut out to be a style blogger after all?


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  1. February 23, 2018 / 11:27 am

    I think you’re on to something lovely! I’m sure 99% of mums feel insecure of their looks and the fact that we’re so busy means we just don’t have the time to get ready how we used to!
    Be a voice and an advocate for us all and show us how we can bring back our looks with minimal time and effort and I’m sure once people are aware of your message, they’ll come flocking!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week!

  2. February 27, 2018 / 9:36 am

    First off, you look great – and don’t be so critical! People LOVE to follow bloggers because they’re real and normal and not at all fake! You look amazing and I love your style 🙂 I do know what you mean about the style posts..I really struggled with mine too at first but now I’m like walking down the street swishing my hair! But in honesty I do struggle to pick photos because I often feel so self conscious. I think you’re doing great and keep going..plenty of practice helps too 🙂 xx
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  3. The Mummy Bubble
    February 27, 2018 / 10:19 am

    Yes you are cut out for this! It’s so hard to find that self-confidence to put yourself out there in the first place, so well done for being brave. You are definitely onto something, you look fab and you should totally keep going! Do what you’re passionate about and people will love it. Thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. February 27, 2018 / 8:06 pm

    I definitely think you are cut out for it – you look great and your style is something I can relate to. Keeo going! #TriumphantTales

  5. March 1, 2018 / 9:28 am

    What!? What is this madness? Of course, you are cut out to be a style blogger! I do sympathise with the photos and the what to do with your arms. No matter what I do I never feel comfortable and have struggled with ‘nice’ pictures of me for years. But you’re getting out there, practising and look great so it will all become easier I am sure.

    Love this post – so relatable!

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  6. March 23, 2018 / 2:14 am

    This was such an honest post, I love it! I think style is about expressing yourself, including your uniqueness. No crop tops needed! I think you look great and you never know who will love what you’re wearing and be inspired. When we stop comparing ourselves to others, we can go so far. You are beautiful in your own skin, and you are enough. I am very rushed in the mornings and I only have one kid lol. BB cream and mascara is usually all I can manage to put on. I think we need more realistic style and beauty bloggers too, that cater to women who can’t spend all day getting dressed. Loved this post. ❤️

  7. March 27, 2018 / 1:14 am

    I LOVE your honesty in this post. I think you can decide to be whatever you want to be. I’m a style blogger and even at 25 I feel silly doing it sometimes. I think if you enjoy it truly, go for it. I’m sure many moms in their mid 30s would appreciate your posts! I would enjoy reading them as well, even with the age gap. You do you, and your confidence will shine~

  8. March 27, 2018 / 8:04 am

    It upsets me to read about the struggles you have with yourself as I have the exact same ones. I’d love to share some of my favourite outfits or make-up styles, but I hate every single photo of myself.

    Unfortunately, I have no advice, but I wish you all the best in slowly becoming more comfortable with sharing those kind of posts, as anyone can be a style blogger. As long as you’re passionate about what you’re writing, nothing else should stand in your way, but I know it’s not always that easy. Good luck!
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