Look, it’s not you it’s me.

People change, I’ve changed. I’m not the same person I was when I first created my account.

I’ve grown up since then, my tastes have changed. I’m just into different things now.

So I’m sorry, we need to go our separate ways. Please don’t take this personally, it’s really not about you. Your feed is stunning, yours photos are lovely but I want something different now.

I’ve moved away from parenting blogging, I’ve moved towards lifestyle, fashion & beauty. I’m not unfollowing you because I don’t like your account, I’m unfollowing as I want my feed to reflect where I am now.

I want outfit inspiration, I want to see the latest looks, I want to see shoes & bags.

I want to see mums like me showing their everyday style. I want to see other mum posting their quick makeup looks.

I want tips on how to apply makeup, or should I say tips on how to cover my eye bags!

I’m just not as interested in the latest toys or pregnancy essentials, I’m past nappies & breastfeeding and I’m definitely past babies!

And whilst I’m on the subject, I’m moving away from the Insta Perfect life. Constantly seeing the stunning selfies, fully contoured faces & cut crease makeup without a wrinkle in sight. Or the perfect homes without so much as a cushion out of place. Yes those photos are absolutely beautiful but to be honest they make me feel inadequate.

I look at myself and start to pull myself apart. I have puffy eye bags and dark circles, I have wrinkles under my eyes & across my forehead. I spend most of my time in casual clothes not styled to perfection. My house is my home but it’s not a show home. I don’t have the perfect grey & white insta perfect house. Whilst my house is always clean it’s lived in & cosy, there are toys in the living room & dishes on the draining board.

I have a ‘theme’ and I love a cohesive look but I want a more realistic Instagram feed, and I’m going to make sure my squares are more realistic too. I want to stop putting the pressure on myself to only show the ‘best bits’. I’m taking hundreds of photos and deleting them all because I feel that they are just not good enough, that I’m not good enough.

I need to stop asking myself ‘am I pretty enough to post beauty photos’, ‘am I thin enough to post fashion shots’, ‘is my home perfect enough to post interior pictures’.

So yes, I’m having a big detox, I’m unfollowing lots of people and will most likely lose a lot of followers myself because of this but I want MY Instagram back. I want my squares to reflect me & I want my feed to be relevant to me.

So I’m sorry if you’re one of the ones I’ve unfollowed, but like I said, it’s not you it’s me,


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  1. Alexandra
    November 12, 2018 / 1:02 pm

    Good for you! It’s your feed – it needs to reflect you, as do the followers and who you’re following. I understand completely! 🙂

  2. November 12, 2018 / 4:52 pm

    I think it’s very important to stay true to oneself. Take your time for a digital detox and come back stronger.

  3. November 12, 2018 / 5:57 pm

    I hate the perfect shot thing that Instagram became. It isn’t what it should be after all it is supposed to be instant. The unedited reality of life not the fake pretention that fills it’s grid. Good for you for being who you are.

  4. November 12, 2018 / 8:02 pm

    I use insta very less these days. I was once an insta addict. I hate what it has become now. And yes I think it’s very important to stay true to oneself

  5. November 13, 2018 / 8:45 am

    IG life dont show what is real about the person. It is only part of it and there are still 99% of it that we did not see. So, never trust what is in IG. LOl.

  6. November 13, 2018 / 2:27 pm

    I see it as the same thing. I have followed people who I don’t really want to follow because they are in blogging groups and I feel compelled to follow them back after they follow me but I’ve since stopped that nonsense. I want to see the things I want to see and when others are constantly flooding my feed with things I’m not interested in, I don’t get to see the things I want to see. Good for you for doing the detox.

  7. November 13, 2018 / 4:24 pm

    I love this! I am all for it! You alone are more than enough and you don’t need validation from any social media.

  8. November 13, 2018 / 5:29 pm

    I am not insta, but I know what you mean about social media, it can be tough. Just do what you do to the best of your ability with confidence – easier said than done I know xx

  9. November 13, 2018 / 6:38 pm

    I have three different accounts for this very reason. But I do follow everyone who follows me on one of them simply to support other people x

  10. November 13, 2018 / 7:47 pm

    Great post and one that really got me thinking about my own Instagram and what I want to see. It’s also made me think about the type of content I want to share and what I want others to think about when they visit my profile.

  11. November 13, 2018 / 8:43 pm

    I want to be brave and have a good tidy up, there is so many accounts that don’t inspire me. But following accounts that don’t inspire me leave me not loving Insta at all. Good for you

  12. November 13, 2018 / 8:50 pm

    I don’t blame you – Instagram is one of those things that sometimes we just need to break away from and start over to make our feed truly ours again. I hope you manage to have a good tidy up and get your feed how you would like it.

  13. November 14, 2018 / 1:52 am

    Social media is a double-edged sword. It can be great, but it can also be a bummer. I do take a break from Instagram from time to time, but I get back to it. I find having a schedule helps me with social media fatigue.

  14. November 14, 2018 / 2:16 am

    your feed should reflect your interests. I used to do a lot more parenting type posts, now its more lifestyle and beauty related

  15. November 14, 2018 / 2:00 pm

    Oh how I understand you. Such a shame that it feels like such hard work. In hope now you can fall back in love with it again.

  16. November 15, 2018 / 1:09 pm

    I understand you SO MUCH! I did a similar move a few months ago. I unfollowed around 500 accounts and I started following other people. When we change, we change. That’s it.

  17. November 15, 2018 / 7:49 pm

    I like Instagram one minute and hate it the next. I don’t post often enough so I lose followers.

  18. November 16, 2018 / 1:34 am

    I totally understand where you are coming from. I love fashion and love being a mom blogger too. Love the accounts that can fuse both.

  19. Aziel Morte
    November 16, 2018 / 3:28 am

    I understand you sometimes I want to give up on instagram thats why i use it 2 times a week only. I dont want the feeling when you loose followers.

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