Things change when you have kids don’t they? You say they won’t, that you’ll be that couple that can’t get enough of each other. That you’ll always be that five times a week rather than five times a month couple.Sure you both love each other, but a quick kiss goodbye in the morning seems to be the most intimate you get for days on end.
For the past ten years the hubby & I have both worked long hours. He was working six days a week, leaving the house about 6:30am and getting home about 7:30pm.
So much of my week is taken up with Archie’s various appointments & assessments, there are so many agencies & areas involved in Archie’s care & therapy that this can feel like a full time job in itself before you even start adding in the phone calls & paperwork that comes with being a special needs parent.
And you know how it goes when you’re tired. Especially when you’ve got a five year old that can quite easily go 24-36 hours without sleep before having a power nap & doing it all again.
We were literally like ships passing in the night, struggling to find time to get everything done on next to no sleep but finding no time for each other, and something had to give.
We decided that we needed to make some big changes to stop our family falling apart, and to make more time for each other. The biggest change was for the hubby to hand his notice in at work and go self employed, and for me to reduce my work hours and focus on the needs of our family more.
And things have been amazing these past few months confirming what we already knew.
The extra step we needed to take was to make more time for us a couple. To actually spend time together, to talk, to relax, to just be a couple without all the added stress. And to do that we decided we needed to start dating again, (each other not other people!!).
Just little things like going out for lunch together. To walk through Manchester together, holding hands & talking, just being a couple again.
We adore our boys & love being parents but that doesn’t mean we have to stop being a couple, and we both need to remember that.
We might not have much time for each other but we still need to make time for each other, even if it’s doing nothing together.
If I lay here, if I just lay here. Would you lie with me & just forget the world…
…let’s waste time, chasing cars, around our heads.