Lockdown has changed things drastically for all of us, everything is different & is likely to be for a long time.
We can’t just go back to the way things were before straightaway, so much has to be taken into consideration. Especially when it comes to our love lives.
Although our relationships and living situations might be very different, our love lives right now have changed so much. Whether you’re in a long-term commitment, the early stages of your relationship or simply dating, we’ve all been impacted by the lockdown.
Physical dating has changed so much too, we’ve gone from being to meet new people face to face to talking online, via apps or video calls. Free dating sites UK have been invaluable to people looking for love during lockdown, especially as you were no longer able to meet people in the usual way.
Obviously meeting up & physically going out dating in lockdown just hasn’t happened in the past three months. But it has given people the opportunity to connect in a different way, and perhaps build a better, deeper bond. Although you may not be able to meet them right now, other than a distanced stroll in the park, dating slowly and getting to know someone before you meet actually has some real benefits.
Instead of chatting briefly on a dating website such as Match Me Happy then meeting up, the initial ‘talking’ stage has lasted so much longer. There’s been the time to really get to know one another. To talk on the phone, to video chat, to have virtual dates. Some people have even been on more dates than usual, albeit those virtual dates.
Things change between couples when they move from dating to living together.
You go from seeing each other occasionally to seeing each other every day. Then throw lockdown into the mix, it can really change those relationships, whether that be a new couple who have just started living together to couples that have been married for years.
All of a sudden the relationship dynamics have changed. Instead of seeing each other in the evenings after work for example, you’re together all day everyday.
This could really work for some people, spending more time together has made them stronger. They’ve had the opportunity to learn more about their partner, to talk more, to interact more.
For others it has just highlighted the issues that were there before lockdown & amplified those issues.
No matter how much we love our partner, spending 24/7 just isn’t healthy. We need our own independence & our personal space, I know I definitely do. If you’ve found yourself spending more time together with your partner than you ever have before, you might also find yourself getting under each other’s feet, and it can easily lead to arguments.
When you’re stressed, emotional or just worked up with all the changes we’ve had to deal with during lockdown little things can easily escalate into huge arguments. And these arguments can be much more frequent. You really need to try & figure out if these arguments are highlighted because of the situation or if it is because there’s underlying issues in the relationship before the lockdown.
These arguments need some sort of closure, some form of resolution otherwise it can feel like you’re having the same argument over different things. It can be so hard when you feel like you’re right & the other person is wrong but if you really want to resolve the issues then you have to work together on this.
Before things get too heated it’s best to put some time or space between the two of you just to calm down & think logically about the situation rather than just blowing up at each other.
Instead of just ignoring the argument or glossing over the cracks it’s best to start a conversation to try & sort things out properly.
The best you can do is to try & avoid using blaming or accusing the other person. Instead, focus on communicating your thoughts and feelings, rather than on what your partner has done wrong. Hopefully they will them open up more to you rather than becoming defensive.
Try to talk about how you feel rather than you did this or you caused that. Once you begin having these types of conversations it can help reduce the arguments as you not only are more aware of the other person & their feelings but you start to realise if you’ve caused any ill feelings in the way you speak to or argue with your loved one.
If the arguments continue & no matter what you do to try & resolve them then maybe you need to think about the relationship as a whole. Consider whether couples counselling is an option before parting ways. A professional can give you the personal help & support your relationship may need.
This lockdown has perhaps been the make or break of many relationships. There’s only the two of you that can know if the relationship is still worth working on once lockdown has lifted.