The summer holidays are over, you did it, you got through it and the kids have been back at school for a while now.

I know it’s been hard, really bloody hard. I see the look on your face, the look of complete and utter exhaustion you’re trying your hardest to mask with a smile.

I know how many hours you’ve spent researching & planning days out and activities that might be even slightly appropriate for your child.

I know how you’ve sat there, going over things in your head, questioning yourself.

Will the park be too busy? Will the play centre be too noisy? Will the zoo be too overwhelming? Will this day result in a meltdown? Will the other parents stare & tut? Will the other children be too much for my child? Will my child be too much for the other children?

I know you can’t just jump in the car or catch a bus. I know how you have to plan & prepare. I know how the journey can be just as hard work as the day out with the lashing out, the trying to escape from the car seat or sensory overload on public transport.

I feel your pain when you see your friends pictures on Facebook. When they have a brilliant family day out that you can only dream of.

I know the frustration you feel when the special needs activities your child loves going to in term time are cancelled throughout the holidays.

I know this was your safe space, your happy place. The place where your child can just be themselves with everyone around understanding their quirks or behaviours. Where the other parents smile at you rather than roll their eyes as they know exactly what you’re going through.

I know the change of routine has thrown your family life into chaos. That in the holidays everything has changed, everything is different, which your child struggles to cope with.

I know you’ve probably been managing on a few hours broken sleep a night that is even more exaggerated as you don’t get get a break during the day. Hell, you probably don’t even get a break in the evening or even through the night as your child just doesn’t settle and doesn’t sleep.

And I know you hate feeling like this. You hate to complain about your child as they are amazing & beautiful.

I know you hate to say you’re struggling, that you are beyond exhausted.

But I also know that you’re not alone.

There’s so many of us out there, all going through the same thing. We’re a little army of fighters and we’re here for you. Reach out, don’t go through it alone. Pop over to my facebook page, leave me a comment, email me at, let’s stick together and support each other. You are most definitely no going through this on your own xx

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  1. October 1, 2017 / 8:29 pm

    Thank you for sharing this insight. It sounds really difficult and being the Mum to a child who doesn’t have autism, I will never truly understand but it’s posts like these that help us to help others whenever they might need it. Thank you for sharing this at #TriumphantTales. Hope to see you again on Tuesday

  2. November 1, 2017 / 11:24 am

    This is so beautifully wriiten! I agree with Jaki’s comment about, being a mum to a non-autistic child makes it hard to truely understand what you’re going through, but with posts like this and other bloggers shedding light into their life makes it clearer for us to see an insight into your world and how we could help. Not the same I know, but when Ben is throwing a tantrum in public and a fellow parent smiles at me with a “I feel your pain mama, you got this” kind of smile, it makes me feel like I can conquer the world knowing I have fellow parents on my side. #ablogginggoodtime

  3. Rachel
    December 5, 2017 / 1:11 pm

    Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are not alone. There are days I’m exhausted and just want to cry but instead I smile and get on with it. With me bring off work these last few weeks CB has been so out of her morning routine we have daily morning tantrums.

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