Ok I know what you’re thinking, “how are those of us living alone supposed to have a sex life during this pandemic?”
Just because your sex life as you know it is on hold, that doesn’t mean that your whole sexuality has to be on lockdown. The flutters don’t just go away!
This coronavirus pandemic has pretty much affected the sex life & relationships of everyone. You could have gone from seeing your partner in the evenings & weekends around work, to living in each other’s pockets. Or from casual dating to being completely alone. We’ve been in lockdown to protect us from the virus but in times of stress & loneliness many people crave intimacy even more than usual.
Necessity is the mother of invention
During the pandemic we’re finding new and safe ways to find that intimacy & sexual contact through technology. Video calling has become the norm for all of us just to maintain contact with our loved ones, to see their faces & hear their voices.
So when it comes to sex in lockdown, if you can’t physically be with someone then why not make use of that the technology, I mean that’s what it’s there for, right? And if your potential partner is up for it, get that tablet or phone out & make that video call.
Sexting has well & truly gone up a notch or five & moved on from dirty talk via messaging or a phone call to actually being able to see each other & engage with each other via video calling.
Quarantine & Chill?
You may have been dating for a while yet have been in lockdown separately & miss the sex life, so cybersex is a natural progression to maintain the relationship. For those that are into more casual dating then a sex dating site is ideal. Dating sites might even start to adopt video calling themselves to make it easier for people to hook up online, especially those that might be long distance.
If you are looking for an online sexual relationship then it’s worth being aware of boundaries, not only your own boundaries but those of your potential partner too. When you’re behind a screen it’s easy to forget that there’s a real person with real feelings involved. You might have met on nostringsdating net but just because there’s no commitment doesn’t mean that you can push someone outside of their comfort zone when they’re not quite ready for it. Consent is consent whether that’s online or in real life.
Even though you could be feeling super sexy & ready for those x-rated requests, the first time on camera can be really scary, thinking oh my god what do I do, what do I look like. For your first time you could even stay mostly clothed if stripping off for a near stranger is too terrifying & build up to something you’re comfortable with. There’s no hard & fast rules, this is your experience you make it how you want it.
On the other hand, you could feel completely comfortable on screen and loving the fact you can have still have a passionate & fun online hook up without the commitment of a relationship.
Why not make the most of it & use this time to explore your fantasies, to find out more about yourself & what pleases you. Sometimes sex via chat can seem as though it’s not ’real sex’ but you’re both (or more) are intending on turning someone on, and hopefully getting them off. Sounds like sex to me.
Let’s talk about sex baby
As you’re not physically with that person you have to communicate your desires which can give a level of openness & intimacy around sex that you might not normally experience. Talk to them about what they want alongside letting them know exactly what turns you, and especially let them know that you are getting turned on. Don’t be scared to throw a few ‘ahhs’ & ‘mmms’ in too time let them know you are really enjoying it.
The best experiences tend to be those where you are turning each other on, trying to get each other off as opposed to a me, me, me situation where you only want self gratification. You can do that alone! Have fun, let you hair down & enjoy those on cam sessions