One of the most important people in my life was my Grandad, he was one hell of a man. So kind, thoughtful, stubborn as an ox but so funny. Pretty much all of my happy memories feature my Grandad. Sadly, we lost him on Christmas Eve sixteen years ago.
It was a major shock to all of us, it came completely out of the blue. He wasn’t even 60 years old.
Christmas was so hard that year, none of us wanted to celebrate but we knew we had to for the kids. For my younger brother & sister, for my own little boy who was only a toddler back then. We didn’t want to do anything but grieve but those little children deserved happy memories not memories of Christmas spent trying to understand why all the grown ups were sad & crying.
Sadly since then we’ve lost other precious members of our family. Again, family that were the life & soul, the ones that loved to have fun. Take my amazing Uncle Derek here on holiday with the girls, three generations of us. At 70 years old that man still knew how to party, how to enjoy life to the full.
My Nan & Grandads life revolved around family
They were the centre of us all, the ones who bought a caravan in Great Yarmouth & Skegness so we could all take family holidays together.
They were the ones who held family parties, inviting family from all round the country to get together & have fun.
They were the ones that taught us all that making memories last more than a lifetime, they last throughout generations as we share our memories with our children.
Now my brother, sister, cousins & I have all grown up to have families of our own and we continue to carry on talking about my Grandad. Talking about how daft we thought he was to have his camcorder out at every opportunity. Not filming anything at all, nothing specific, just filming us being us.
Even filming us sat about chatting & laughing. At the time we all groaned as soon as we saw that camera bag being opened but now as adults, looking back at that old film is amazing. It’s a shared experience, something we can laugh at, something we can talk about.
The one thing in life he taught us was to spend time making memories
Memories guide our thoughts, actions & decisions – they shape who we are. But as we get older are we investing enough time in making memories?
Investing in experiences like family holidays, days out & activities make us happy for longer. Not only do you enjoy the experience but you look back on them for years to come. Where spending money on material things like the latest TV only brings short-lived happiness.
Even the experiences that weren’t that great at the time, I’m talking about that time camping when we were soaked wet through all weekend, covered in mud & didn’t sleep a wink, but it still creates happy memories as you make the best of the situation. Plus it gives you something to laugh about!
For us as a family now, we want to enjoy life, do more, experience more.
We want to take great holidays, whether that is something cheap & cheerful or far flung & exotic.
We want to make the most of our weekends, to get out and about, explore the countryside.
We want to spend less time working and more time with our families.