WHAT DID YOU SAY?!

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After having a lovely afternoon with one of pregnant friends she asked me did I think she was huge. She’s twelve weeks pregnant and is already showing but by no means is she huge, she just has a belly which considered there’s a little person in there then of course she’s going to have a belly. This is something that drove me bloody crazy the whole way through my pregnancy.
Why do people think it’s perfectly fine to tell you how h-uuu-ge you are. Seriously, why do they think it’s ok? We’ve got enough to deal with without someone telling you you’re ‘massive’. I didn’t even put on that much weight I was mainly bump but I’ve even been told “I bet you’re too scared to step on the scales you’re that big”. She’s been told she looks like she’s having twins and that is she’s this big now she’s going to be enormous by forty weeks. The poor girl was terrified! I tried to make her feel better but she has really took the comments to heart.

I just don’t understand why they think it’s ok, I would never even think about telling an overweight person that they’re huge, for one its just downright cruel and two, its nobodies business but theirs!

Have you ever experienced this & did you say anything back to them? I wish I had of

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23 Comments

  1. January 17, 2015 / 2:12 pm

    It’s not ok! I think it’s rude….
    I hardly showed with my eldest….It was only the last few weeks and I did. People thought I was just fat not pregnant. I was told that too. The cheek! With my youngest I showed more and people would say I had a “neat bump” What does that even mean…Can someone have a messy bump. lol x

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 17, 2015 / 9:13 pm

      It’s really rude, everybody looks different throughout their pregnancy and it’s hard enough being pregnant without people being rude. Haha a ‘neat’ bump! xx

  2. January 17, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    So many people speak without engaging their brains first… how would they feel if someone told them they were massive whilst housing another being, growing it until birth?! Crikey… I hope your friend sees that and tries to find the joy in pregnancy rather than worrying about how others perceive her. X

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 17, 2015 / 9:09 pm

      Exactly! They really do speak without thinking. Hopefully as she progresses she’ll feel more comfortable x

  3. January 17, 2015 / 9:02 pm

    Hello there, yes I did have a few comments when I was pregnant but more so afterwards as I have put on weight-I used to do lots of exercise and then stopped after my son was born, someone told me that I was quite obviously eating up all his leftovers-charming!

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 17, 2015 / 9:06 pm

      OMG some people! I can’t believe they would actually say something like that x

      • January 17, 2015 / 10:26 pm

        I know! And it was quantified with ‘and you’re looking well-though that usually means you’ve put on weight’…I really need to start doing some exercise!

        • gymbunnymum
          Author
          January 18, 2015 / 7:18 am

          You should only do it if you want to lose weight not because some inconsiderate person said so xx

          • January 18, 2015 / 8:55 pm

            Hello there, you are quite right-I would like to get back into running races again, it will be a long haul but it’s something to aim for. I am really enjoying your blog by the way it’s great x

          • gymbunnymum
            Author
            January 19, 2015 / 8:33 pm

            Thanks so much! xx

  4. anotherbun1
    January 18, 2015 / 7:29 am

    Oh it’s so rude! I go to two different toddler groups – one lot tell me I’m massive, the other tell me I’m massive. No, I’m pregnant….I have a bump that’s exactly the size it’s meant to be so shhhh with your comments!

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 18, 2015 / 7:33 am

      How lovely for you to get told TWICE! You have an actual person inside so yes totally shhhh with the comments xx

  5. January 18, 2015 / 10:54 am

    I think once you’re pregnant some people think your bump is public property – verbally and physically!

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 18, 2015 / 8:16 pm

      Yes you’re so right, just because it’s there doesn’t mean everyone has the right to comment on it x

  6. January 19, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    Haha I totally agree. I’m on the other end though, I am a lot smaller this time and people keep saying that and it makes me worry. I haven’t eaten as much though and the growth scans are ok so I’m convinced my bump must be all baby.
    Aren’t people thoughtless xx

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      January 20, 2015 / 11:58 am

      Aww poor you, try not to let other people’s comment bother you. It’s hard but we just switch off at these types of comments. Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy, I know you don’t have long x

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      February 2, 2015 / 8:18 pm

      Aww bless you, I bet you felt worse that it looked but people constantly commenting don’t help the self confidence do they? xx

  7. March 31, 2015 / 10:03 pm

    I don’t think anyone ever told me I was huge and I’m not really one for taking that kind of thing to heart anyway, but I agree – it’s on a par with complete strangers thinking its OK to touch your stomach too! Some invisible barrier (both physical and mental) seems to come down. Thanks for linking to #thetruthabout X

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      March 31, 2015 / 11:44 pm

      Oh gosh, strangers touching the bump is just too much!

  8. March 31, 2015 / 10:21 pm

    I had so many of these comments – them: ooh any day now? me: no still another 2 months. I do wish people would keep their comments to themselves sometimes!

    • gymbunnymum
      Author
      March 31, 2015 / 11:43 pm

      It may seem like an innocent comment to them but it can really get to you can’t it?

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